Tappy comforting McKenna
My daughter has tapped into the mothership and started the fear of monsters and ghosts. Where do parents turn when dealing with these fears? I have turned to using a tool called tapping, Meridian Tapping or EFT. For ease with my daughter, I purchased a stuffed animal called Tappy Bear. He has buttons strategically placed at the meridian tapping points. Working with Tappy helps release the energy of the beliefs, thoughts and emotions of things that affects us~ such as fear of the dark and monsters!
I have included this sweet story written for Till and Tappy by Dr. Patricia Carrington, Phd. I hope you enjoy it!
The Ghost in Tappy’s Closet
by Dr. Patricia Carrington
One night, in the middle of the night, TappyBear was sound asleep and all warm and comfy in his bed, when he was awakened by the sound of thunder. He hadn’t expected a storm and so he felt a little scared.
Then he heard a strange sort of groaning noise. It seemed to come from his closet.
Tappy now felt more scared. What was this? Maybe a ghost was hiding in his closet!
Then his scary thoughts made him even more scared. Suppose the ghost would come out of the closet!
Then he became even more scared when he thought, ”Suppose the ghost will come after me?”
Thoughts can make you really scared. Tappy was really scared.
To make himself feel better he decided right then and there to tap on his special magic tapping spots and tap the scared feelings away. He knew he would be able to take care of any problem if he just wasn’t so scared.
So, Tappy began to tap on his special tapping spots. At each tapping spot he said out loud, “Even though I’m scared, I’m a great bear and I can handle this!” – He said this same thing at each tapping spot, and soon he began to feel better –– and better —- and better.
Pretty soon Tappy felt so much better from doing all that tapping that he got out of bed, switched on the light, and went over to his closet and OPENED it to see what was in there. And guess what? All that was in that closet was his own clothes and a few games on the self. THERE WAS NO GHOST AT ALL!
But then Tappy heard that groaning noise again. This time though he was so calm that he realized the noise was coming from his window. He decided to walk over to the window and see what was going on, the tapping had helped him so much that he wasn’t a bit scared anymore. “I’ll handle it” he said to himself.
And that’s what Tappy did. He went over to the window and he listened to the sound and he looked out the window. Even though it was night, the light from his room shone out into the darkness and now he could see a tree branch outdoors being blown by the wind. It was being blown so it brushed right against his window, and when it scraped on the glass of the window it was making a noise that sounded like a squeaky groaning!
A tree branch! It hadn’t been a ghost at all! He had only thought it was a ghost because he had felt scared in the first place when he was wakened up by the thunder. Now that he wasn’t scared anymore, he realized what the noise was and felt fine. The tapping had come to his rescue!
Tappy went back and crawled into bed and said to himself. “It’s only a tree branch scraping on my window. I’ll just go to sleep.” And that’s what he did.
Would you like to color-in the pictures for this story?
The coloring pages and story are in a .pdf file that requires ADOBE READER be installed on your computer to read it. If you do not have Adobe Reader installed, visit www.adobe.com to download it now.Once you have opened the e-book in Adobe Reader, save it to your computer. Go to FILE, click on SAVE, then CHOOSE Desktop. If you want it to work, MAKE SURE TO SAVE IT! If you have any problems with this please email us at: till.schilling@tappybear.com
How cool is it to gift your child with tools that will help them cope with situations, be it the monster or ghost at night, bully on the play ground or death in the family. Tapping is one of those tools your child can learn with small stuff (which by the way, is not small to them). Start in a fun, loving, playful way and watch tapping become a coping tool they can use for the big stuff! Want to learn more about Tapping and Tappy Bear? Click here to visit Tappy!
Have any experiences with tapping or other modalities? We would love to hear from you. You never know when your story will help someone else that is searching for help in the exact same thing… and your story made all the difference. Be the difference in someone’s life- share YOUR story!
Here’s to being a Passion Parent!
Christine Hiebel
Tappy Bear – how fabulous for children to have such a comforting tool!
I do believe today’s children will grow into seeming magicians when they grow up! That is – if they have parents who are smart enough and compassionate enough to use things like a Tappy Bear!!
Thanks for the story, Christine! It also reminded me (as an adult) to look at ‘scary’ things before I label them ‘scary’ !
Great point, Annette! In a series of interviews I did a few months ago, every single expert gave the advice that we, as parents, need to clear our own stuff BEFORE we try to help the child…. so often it is our own fears, our own beliefs and our own pain that is at the root of the child’s behavior.
I love that saying that fear is most often
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Thanks for your insight!
Christine
Love the photo of that sweet little princess and Tappy. I can identify with this story. Thanks for sharing it.
You keep telling these stories and I will find myself ordering a Tappy Bear for me. I have a teddy bear collection but not a Tappy.
Love Bunny
Lions, tigers and bears oh my. Poor McKenna. The benefit to all this is at least you know she has a great imagination and creative perspective. So keep feeding and nurturing that.
I have heard you mention the Tappy Bear before and was wondering about its application. Now I get it
. It’s a very cool concept.
@teenbizcoach
The truth is that my nine years old son have a lot of fears, he don’t like to tap on it. The main problem is that he don’t know what is terrifying him… maybe the darkness, but it’s a problem because we have a big four floors house and he cant stand being alone… sometime I said to him: “Please speak with the monster and tell him you don`t want he stay in your room, tell him you have no fear yet, speak with him…” This seemed to calm him but when he heard a strange sound, we have to switch on the light, open the doors of the cupboard… etc.
Patricia,
Many times children decide that they do not want to tap. Infact, adults go through this phase often too. Perhaps it is the ego not wanting to let go of something it thinks is serving us. Know that you can always surrogate tap for your child. You can do this on yourself or, if they object to that as well, I just tap my forefinger and thumb while I say the affirmations in my mind.
I love that you suggested talking to the monster. This helps the child feel like he or she has some control and a way to deal with it. It also validates that you know they have a real fear. I always make sure my daughter knows that I understand she has a real fear… next step is understanding what is helping them afraid. That is why I love this idea of sharing this story with your child, printing out the paper and reinforcing it with coloring the page.
Keep in touch, would love to know if things get better! Meanwhile, it is nice to know that other parents are dealing with the same challenges and what they are doing that may help! I love this community!
A friend of mine just sent me a link to a comment on Gary Craig’s newsletter about the use of EFT for nightmares…. though you may be interested in what others are saying!
Hi Gary,
Thank you for this incredible process! The defining moment for me in deciding to become an EFT Practitioner was when my 15 year old daughter awoke one night and told me she had had “another one of those horrible nightmares.”
She hadn’t had one for quite some time, but this time, instead of just holding her and talking about how we could ‘rewrite’ the dream to make it more empowering for her and less scary, I tried EFT.
I tapped on her and just asked her to repeat whatever I said. She rated the dream at an intensity level of 10 out of 10 and we began with, Even though I just had this terrible nightmare…
I then tapped on each point with, this awful nightmare … it really scared me … I don’t even want to think about it, it was so bad. I said whatever intuitively came to me and asked her to validate if they were true statements. She agreed.
After one round, I asked her to rate the emotional intensity again. She gave it an 8 out of 10. We proceeded with another round: Even though I’m an ’8′ and have a ways to go… She went to a 5 out of 10 and one more round reduced it to a 3 out of 10. At that point she pushed my hand away and said, “Mom, stop thumping on my head … I want to go to sleep!”
Gary, within 3 minutes she was sleeping soundly – and slept peacefully throughout the rest of the night. The entire EFT process took about 6 minutes.
The next day I asked her if the EFT really worked or perhaps her dream wasn’t really that bad. She looked at me very seriously and said, “No, Mom, it was a really bad dream … and what you did really worked!” She agreed to get up and speak at one of my workshops for kids suffering with nightmares.
Thank you again, Gary. I’ve spent many years working with psychotherapy, and NOTHING has helped to ‘get the job done’ like EFT! It takes the pain and suffering out of troubling memories and helps with self-image problems, as long as the root cause has been identified accurately.
With Sincere Appreciation,
Karin Tarte